What doesn’t kill you… can make someone else stronger

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger… yeah right. That can be impossible to believe while enduring trials. Or when you know that this suffering may very well kill you. It sounds like hippy-dippy nonsense, too-good-to-be-true hokum, ridiculous wishful thinking.

Even if it’s true, I don’t like how it’s so self-centric; I will come out stronger through this, I will succeed, I will get through this challenge and end up better for it. You’re working through the hardship for your own gain alone. The focus is on YOUR pain and later YOUR triumph and reward.

When faced with difficulties that I don’t understand, it means nothing to me that ‘what doesn’t kill me will strengthen me’. But to believe that my hardship could help someone else… that makes it worth it for me. To know that someone could be watching me get through a tough time and be inspired to take on their own challenges, or that I’m gaining experience so I can empathise with others who may, in the future, suffer the same difficulties as I did… it gives me courage and hope.

I still acknowledge anguish in suffering. I won’t pretend pain isn’t real or say it’s just a case of mind over matter – that isn’t helpful. I never mean to say that this idea can make any and all pain go away, but, at least for me, it switches on a light at the end of the tunnel. I can see a reason and a goal in my trials. It makes me grateful for my struggle! I can see how it may help other people at the time or in the future. Because I know it is all too easy to dismiss someone who is trying to help with good intentions if they haven’t experienced the same challenges. I understand that line of thinking, I fall into it too sometimes. That is when I need to look up to and get advice from someone who has survived what I’m going through. I would be so honoured to do that for someone else.

That is why I keep going even when faced with adversity. What doesn’t kill me could make someone else stronger. There is no greater motivation for me than to know I could help someone else through my actions. So I persevere, both for my own sake as well as for the people who may need to see someone do it.

Stay safe,


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